Let’s have a moment to do a gutcheck.

Just like any intention to pursue any path – including Sacred Whoring – one MUST be sure what one’s motivation is.  If I whore myself out to be a doormat, or to simply get my rocks off, or to validate my own attractiveness, or for competition…..all these examples come from a place of self-cherishing.  And in Tibetan Buddhism, the aim is to be anything BUT self-cherishing.  To have such motivation behind one’s actions results in being unskillful and clumsy to varying degrees.

No, my motivation as a Sacred Whore is as of the Bodhisattva.  I seek nothing for myself, but to liberate you, and to bring you happiness.

To cherish the self, when it is viewed in our tradition that there is no inherent self that exists on it’s own side, is to continue on the hamster wheel of samsara.  We get so attached to the ego, but the realities of our mortal and sexual nature provide us potent (and risky) oppportunities to transcend our ego.  Sex and death, creation and dissolution, merging and liberation – ultimately I contemplate heavily on both in my Whoredom.  But I also seek to contemplate on both with the same courageous selflessness that a mother would have when she must rescue her infant from the inside of a burning house.

THIS is the kind of selflessness that I am talking about.  It is strong, brave, and moral.  I’ve heard of criticism from others about this approach to “self-cherishing”, and that in our culture, seeking to abolish it amounts to reducing our dignity.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Reduing our own dignity or worth is STILL being self-absorbed – albeit it’s being self-absorbed with more angst and tears.

Sacred Whoredom is not your typical street-walker by any means.  It is not even your typical high-priced escort.  These emanations are culturally encapsulated in certain causes and conditions where women are abused and degraded  by society, by pimps, by madams, and by their patrons.  No, a Sacred Whore approaches sex with the highest and most noble motivation without care for self-cherishing concerns like money or status. 

To put it bluntly, a Sacred Whore opens the door to Nirvana for her consorts.